Pretty much ever since I’ve started going back to school, I’ve been watching out for dragons. I know from past experience that I am most vulnerable to get into unhealthy relationships when I am getting back onto my path – …
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In order to do more dragon taming, I am reading Windy Dryden’s book How to Accept Yourself, which is based on Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT). He argues against self-esteem and suggests instead to work toward Unconditional Self-Acceptance (USA). Dryden …
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Recently, I had the pleasure of meeting my pet dragons. It was a mixed pleasure, of course. Realizing what thoughts perpetuate my internalized singlism was somewhat frustrating (I thought I was over these!) but it was also good to see …
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In the United States, we almost seem obsessed with finding happiness, which is rather ironic because “it is not something to be sought or pursued, but a result of how we live” (Richard Eckersley. Well & Good. 104). From early …
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Ideas which create self-defeating behavior Way of Being Your “At Effect” Programming 1 Emotionally Dependent The idea that we must have love and approval from all the people we find significant. Placing undue importance on what other people think …
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Rational-Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT) and its cousin, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) have been researched quite a bit. A REBT counselor and researcher in Britain, Jim Byrne, offers this research summary. Of particular interest are his “Summary Notes On REBT Research” in …
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