Last night I watched “I love you, Man” with a bunch of friends. Not something I usually do but with all the reading on the financial crisis I’ve been doing lately (especially this depressing piece), I needed a stupid comedy to cheer me up. I laughed a lot even as I was noting the singlism (the whole movie is pretty matrimanical since the plot revolves around the wedding of one of the main characters, Peter). Here are the two examples I remember (I didn’t exactly do a thorough analysis of the movie 😉 . Also the quotes aren’t necessarily verbatim…):
- The groom-to-be announces his engagement with words something like “Yes, I am getting married! I feel so grown up now!” Implication: You’re not grown up until you get married.
- One of the friends of the bride-to-be refocuses the conversation onto her a couple of times. Another friend comments about that (“Why do things always have to revolve around you?”). Prompting the first to shoot back “because I am single, that’s why.” Implication: Singles are selfish and self-centered.
- The friend of the groom-to-be is a bachelor, Sydney, and portrait as someone who’s pretty irresponsible – from not cleaning up after his dog to not working (though at the end, he’s turned into a successful investor). Implication: Singles don’t care about others and are irresponsible.
- One of my friends thought that Sydney appeared manic depressive. Not everybody in the car agreed but clearly there was something strange about him, something was wrong with him, therefore he remained single. Implication: There’s something wrong with you if you’re single. OR: If you’re single, you’ll be depressed most of the time.
Additionally, the movie suggests that men and women can really not be friends. Platonic friendships are not even considered. The only legitimate interaction between men & women is portrayed as sex.
If you watched the movie, feel free to share your reactions regarding the singlism or matrimania you notice in the movie. It would also be interesting to read reactions on possible homophobia and/or stereotype of gay men in the movie (lesbians don’t exist).