We said at the beginning that we would establish three things: that marriage is a fundamental right, and that depriving gays and lesbians the right to marry harm them and harm their children, and that depriving gays and lesbians the right to marry could not help heterosexual marriage at all.
Not being married harms us, a claim based on the false belief that marriage makes us happier, healthier, and wealthier. And children growing up within single parent families are harmed – actually, children are harmed in any family other than that headed by a married couple. Both of these claims are false and singlist perpetuating stereotypes against singles. I find it frustrating that the attorneys could not find arguments for same-sex marriage that do not require put downs of singles, including the conjuring up of incorrect “evidence.” If they had not been driven by matrimania, they could have utilized the strongest argument for marriage equality: Not providing protection in case of divorce is unjust. But that would require admitting to the reality that marriages do not last forever, which contradicts the matrimanic assumption that marriage leads to infinite bliss.
Update: Here is a great post by Bella DePaulo making similar points in much more detail.