Thank you for supporting the right of everybody to get married. While I agree that everybody – including people in the LGBT community – should have this right, I strongly object to the claim that this creates equality for all since the government uses marital status as a way to distribute rights and privileges. This creates a bright red dividing line between the married and the unmarried. In today’s society, this leaves out a large amount of people; people who either by choice or circumstance are living in family arrangements other than marriage, including many singles. Due to the demographic changes over the last few decades, marriage is no longer an appropriate way of deciding who gets governmental support. For example, why should a low income mother be forced to pay for the birth of her daughter if she is unmarried, but the state of Michigan waves this fee if she gets married? She and the father are in a committed relationship whether they are married or not. She needs financial assistance whether she is married or not. Using marital status in instances like this – and there are lots of other examples that the Alternatives to Marriage Project (AtMP) has documented – creates unfairness and unequal treatment. I would be very surprised if you would want to support policies like this. Yet, your support of expanding the 1138 rights & privileges that married folks get to the LGBT community does just that: It continues the unequal treatment of married and unmarried. As your constituent and a member of AtMP’s board, I urge you to support policies that value all families, not just married families.
If I hear anything back, I’ll post it though I expect only to put a bug in some staffer’s head that maybe, maybe we can build on eventually.