More than a year ago, i first blogged about my choice to remain celibate as well as a single by choice (yes, you can be single and non-celibate! One does not imply the other). Then, i started to read a book it – mostly looking for an answer to the question “what do i do with all that sexual energy?!?” That does not go away just because we decide to be celibate… As i pointed out in my previous post, flamenco just isn’t my thing – yet, i love to folk dance and i’ve noticed that a lot of my needs are getting met while dancing, especially in folk dancing since that requires the whole village, most of the time.

Then i stumbled onto a free belly dance class. I didn’t even think about it as an outlet for that energy… Slowly, i am realizing that it is! The movements are very sensual – i guess there is a reason why men find it so sexy… And i am really enjoying learning to move parts of my body i usually don’t move – like my hips or even my shoulders. It turns out to be much harder than it looked at first. I even started doing some drills (we’ll see how long that’ll last ;-)). It’s all about isolating certain parts of our bodies while holding others still.

Whether this is making celibacy any easier or not, i don’t know, partly because it wasn’t difficult for me to begin with. I know my energy comes in cycles, and the sexual variety isn’t any different. I am having fun, though, exploring a new way of moving my body. And i get to listen to some of the music that i’ve been enjoying already. Just the dance moves have changed.