Girl Meets Boy and the Taboo of Friendship — 7 Comments

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  2. Nope. They don’t have every book but they have this wonderful system that links libraries in a couple of states together, which makes it more likely to get a book (and I was able to order this one from another library). Sure you have to wait a few days but still! And if all else fails, there’s interlibrary loan, which can reach any book in any library in the country (I think). I rarely use that anymore since the Link+ system usually allows me to get books from other libraries (it’s a bit more straight forward than ILL plus you don’t have to wait weeks for a book).

    Of course, “Sex at Dawn” is too new for the library, so I will probably end up having to buy it…

  3. Yeah, I carry my tin foil hat with me at all times but I don’t mind reading about anything as long as it’s well documented. Can you talk to your library to get stocked on certain books? That’s amazing. And I’m guessing you just have to have a subscription?

  4. The Libido Dominandi book you mentioned, RedKiwi, sounds fascinating! Granted I am reading an ad plus this Illuminati tie-in makes me wonder if this is a conspiracy theory book (or maybe it can just be read this way…). Here are some quotes from the ad:

    Unlike the standard version of sexual revolution, Libido Dominandi shows how sexual liberation was from its inception a form of control. The logic is clear enough: Those who wished to liberate man from the moral order needed to impose social controls as soon as they succeeded because liberated libido led inevitably to anarchy.

    Over the course of two hundred years, those techniques became more and more refined, eventuating in a world where people were controlled, not by military force, but by the skillful management of their passions. It was Aldous Huxley who wrote in his preface to the 1946 edition of Brave New World that “as political and economic freedom diminishes, sexual freedom tends compensatingly to increase.”

    This book is about the converse of that statement. It explains how the rhetoric of sexual freedom was used to engineer a system of covert political and social control. Over the course of the two-hundred-year span covered by this book, the development of technologies of communication, reproduction, and psychic control – including psychotherapy, behaviorism, advertising, sensitivity training, pornography, and, when push came to shove, plain old blackmail – allowed the Enlightenment and its heirs to turn Augustine’s insight on its head and create masters out of men’s vices. Libido Dominandi is the story of how that happened.

    Still, I hope my library can get this book since it might be interesting to check out…

  5. It’s great to hear from the “other side,” RedKiwi, although it’s sad that your stories basically mirror mine… And I think you’re right: It’s all the programming we’re exposed to that suggests that we should be coupling up. Plus, a devaluation of friendship in general – after all once you find The One, who needs friends?!? (Just a second of thought should burst that myth but…).

    If you’re interested in monogamy busting research, you can also check out Myth of Monogamy and/or some of Helen Fisher’s work, although she is now working for, which seems to totally contradict her findings…

  6. I sometimes wondered how my relation with my friends would go if I was of the same sex as they, I mostly had female friends that were close, and they usually get the wrong idea. I guess it would be easier if I would have seen them less. About the hugging.. I once gave a hug to a friend in need and she interpreted that as a gesture that we should be together.. yeah. >_>

    Unfortunately, you can’t really escape this even on the internet. Humans have been programmed for too long to see people as either female or male and not like just another human being.

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