Comments on: Singlism http://www.rabe.org/singlism/ Sharing ideas and provocations on living single while happy. Reflecting on the social psychology of stereotypes and other cultural phenomena. Sat, 04 Feb 2012 19:10:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Darshan Chande http://www.rabe.org/singlism/comment-page-1/#comment-4071 Darshan Chande Mon, 21 Jun 2010 15:16:10 +0000 http://www.rabe.org/singlism/#comment-4071 Of course, there's nothing wrong about being single. By single, I hope, what's meant is "un-married", or in "not-permanent" relationship. Neither is there anything wrong with coupling. Coupling happening as a result of natural forces (sexual attraction) has certain purpose and is perfectly alright. Coupling happening as a social outcome is a problematic thing, and that makes it "wrong". Impositions like "faithfulness", "life-long commitment" etc which invariably come with "marriage" make marriage un-natural, thus, wrong. However, being single is not a rule that has to be followed. If one really understands what "marriage" is and why being single is a better way and all that, only then one should follow it. Understanding automatically brings contentment (happiness, if we may call it so). UNDERSTANDING is the only way. As it is, neither being single, nor being married is a "sin", as long as one's content with the state. Of course, there’s nothing wrong about being single. By single, I hope, what’s meant is “un-married”, or in “not-permanent” relationship. Neither is there anything wrong with coupling. Coupling happening as a result of natural forces (sexual attraction) has certain purpose and is perfectly alright. Coupling happening as a social outcome is a problematic thing, and that makes it “wrong”. Impositions like “faithfulness”, “life-long commitment” etc which invariably come with “marriage” make marriage un-natural, thus, wrong.

However, being single is not a rule that has to be followed. If one really understands what “marriage” is and why being single is a better way and all that, only then one should follow it. Understanding automatically brings contentment (happiness, if we may call it so). UNDERSTANDING is the only way. As it is, neither being single, nor being married is a “sin”, as long as one’s content with the state.

]]> By: Rachel’s Musings » Marital Happiness Myth http://www.rabe.org/singlism/comment-page-1/#comment-426 Rachel’s Musings » Marital Happiness Myth Mon, 05 May 2008 23:17:07 +0000 http://www.rabe.org/singlism/#comment-426 [...] everybody live more satisfying lives, whether married or single, such as those found through the work of Kay Trimberger. Her work suggests that intimate relationships are important to our lives but they do not need to [...] [...] everybody live more satisfying lives, whether married or single, such as those found through the work of Kay Trimberger. Her work suggests that intimate relationships are important to our lives but they do not need to [...]

]]> By: Singles by Choice http://www.rabe.org/singlism/comment-page-1/#comment-187 Singles by Choice Fri, 28 Mar 2008 04:25:03 +0000 http://www.rabe.org/singlism/#comment-187 [...] might offer us ways of moving beyond matrimania to a culture that values every individual no matter what their single status. Of course, Indian [...] [...] might offer us ways of moving beyond matrimania to a culture that values every individual no matter what their single status. Of course, Indian [...]

]]> By: Singles by Choice http://www.rabe.org/singlism/comment-page-1/#comment-147 Singles by Choice Mon, 24 Mar 2008 22:49:48 +0000 http://www.rabe.org/singlism/#comment-147 [...] lives are grounded in community and connections with others, some more intimate than others (see Kay Trimberger’s analysis for more information). This seems to point to new ways of relating that could inform intimate [...] [...] lives are grounded in community and connections with others, some more intimate than others (see Kay Trimberger’s analysis for more information). This seems to point to new ways of relating that could inform intimate [...]

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