Despite the matrimania reflected in the fight for marriage equality, I celebrated the ruling against prop 8. I think everybody should have the right to refuse to get married – and we only have that right if we can legally marry. Plus, I don’t like it when religious groups impose their morality on the rest of us, which is what Prop 8 does. But I was struck by the singlism in the comments by David Boies, one of the attorneys arguing against Prop 8, on the Rachel Maddow show (You can also watch the video of the interview here.): We … Continue reading »
Now you can meddle in your single friends’ lives and earn money for doing so! Check out MatchCrew! Take a look at that website and notice how they are redefining meeting people (the only person you’re really interested in meeting is The One) and relationships (well, we know that one already: It’s only seepy relationship that counts). Do you enjoy helping your friends meet new people? We believe the desire to find the right partner in life is at the core of every person’s happiness, and it is a noble cause to help others to try and achieve that dream. … Continue reading »
May 302010
With the release of “Sex and the City 2″ came Kim Cattrall’s refusal to pose with a cougar. She is not afraid of the majestic cat – sorry lions – but rather does not want to perpetuate the stereotype that the urban usage of the term brings with it. “Cougar” describes an older woman out to have sex with a younger man. Ever since Bella DePaulo asked to reflect on the label, I’ve been pondering it and would like to share some thoughts. Feel free to add yours in the comments! There are numerous bothersome layers to “cougar” – it … Continue reading »
May 202010
I’ve been thinking a lot about singlism lately. In fact, my first philosophy paper uses it as an example prejudice. While writing the paper, I was mulling over why I should study singlism with all those other prejudices and biases out there. In part, I want to study it, of course, because I face it. I also face sexism, though. So is there something about singlism that makes it a better target of study then, say, sexism? I think there is. In a response article to Bella DePaulo’s and Wendy Morris’ target article on Singles in Society, Christian Crandall and … Continue reading »
As the rainy season starts in earnest, the thought that the fight for equality pushes us singles out into the rain becomes even more real. Many of us supporters of going beyond conjugality have had trouble with the single issue fight for the right to marry for people in the LGBT community. On the one hand, exclusion from marriage is clearly discriminatory. On the other hand, this fight implies a normalization, which is scary, and prevents us from questioning marriage itself and thus enshrines it even more into our culture. I have fought against Prop 8 because I felt it … Continue reading »
I’ve been spending way too much time since the beginning of December reading, rereading, and rerereading Kant’s Prolegomena, a work that attempts to summarize his Critique of Reason, Kant’s important contribution to philosophy in general and metaphysics in particular. It is impossible to understand his writing without total immersion, which means reading the same thing over and over again. I am beginning to understand what he is saying but that’s not what this post will be about. This post will be about a fact from Kant’s life: Kant died a virgin. This fact seems to conjure up all the prejudices … Continue reading »
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